How to Become Charismatic
By Jacob Beaulieu
Edited by Trevor Beals
Just about all of us know at least one person who is never nervous in front of a crowd, always speaks their mind no matter what, is almost always friendly, and is truly a fun person to be around. You may think that this is just that person's outgoing personality but it’s actually a skill that they have developed known as charisma. Charisma is the ability to speak your mind no matter what while capturing your audience’s attention and empowering the people around you. Also most of the most influential people past and present have this skill such as Martin Luther King Jr. So if you are struggling to be develop this skill here are some important tips.
The first thing you can do to develop your charisma is to take a deep breath before talking to someone. This is very important because it gives you a second to calm down, clear your head, and to feel more confident about what you are doing. This is also important because if you don’t just relax and you try too hard at the other charisma boosters that I’m about to tell you about your charisma is as dead as the fidget spinner fad.
The second thing is to be fully engaged when talking to others. This involves making eye contact and letting the other person or audience know that you are listening. This is important because the audience will see that you value them which will make you seem more magnetic.
The next action you can take is to make an effort to be interesting. The best thing you can do for that is to do something you love when you first get up in the morning. This might involve you getting up at some pretty early times but if you start the day off with high energy it usually will be with you for the rest of the day and with your interactions with others.
Another very important thing to do for your charisma is to become more confident. This isn't easy but the best thing you can do is to take a risk everyday by talking to someone you normally wouldn’t or doing something that you wouldn’t normally do like joining a club that people wouldn’t normally associate you with (This will also help you be more interesting).
The next thing you can do is to speak your mind and share your ideas even if they seem crazy. As long as you don’t drone on about them feel free to share you ideas and passions with your friends even if you are sure that they will think it is crazy. This because your friends will respect you for sharing your thoughts and if they don’t you can always just ignore the negativity until they realise that the negativity is not getting them anywhere.
Like Martin Luther King Jr. you should learn to become a better speaker by observing how people react to how you say something (don’t let this stop you from speaking your mind).You should research ways to speak clearly and you should practice a ton because practice is the most important thing you can do for anything. To start you off the first real speaking exercise you can do is to learn to speak slowly because even though it will sound weird at first it, will make people see you as more confident .
The final thing you can do to be charismatic is to change your mindset. You should eliminate the feeling of having to please other people because you feel you have to. Instead make a list of your values in life and let them control you instead of other people's opinions of you. This is the hardest but by far the most important part of building charisma.
Martin Luther King Jr. was not born a leader, he became a leader because he worked hard at the things that meant alot to him. Like him you might not start as the most persuasive and talkative person but as long as you are in touch with your values and not worried about how others see him you can develop extraordinary charisma.
|Martin Luther King Jr. (PBS)|