article by Gabriella Aubut and Elizabeth Marston
edited by Mallory Mulrath
Many students struggle to find a date to the annual Massabesic Winter Ball, while others, such as those currently in a relationship, already have a date, with no trouble. For those of which who don't quite have a date as of yet, we all know how nerve wracking it can be to ask someone to dance, but don't fret! You still have time!
It seems as though the students are
getting a head start on “popping the
question”, while others still haven’t even
considered if they want to go. So, if you’re struggling to find a date, or you know who you want to go with, but can’t quite figure out how to ask, we have a few easy-to-follow steps for you right here!
Step One: You need to determine whether or not you want to go and make sure you have a ride there and back. You don’t want to have to work up the courage to ask someone to be your date to the Ball, have them say yes, and then come to realize that you can’t go.
Step Two: Once it is confirmed that you are eligible to go to the Ball, think of a few people you would enjoy going with. That way, if the first one doesn’t work out, you have a backup plan.
Step Three: Make sure they don’t already have a date to the dance. No one wants to end up asking someone to be there date and then being rejected because the other person already has a date.
Step Four: Figure out how you want to ask them. Figure out if you want to do something bold, ask them in person, or just send a text.
Step Five: Approach them in a nice, confident manner, but not conceited (if you’re asking in person). When you approach them, you don’t want to look nervous. You want to feel good about yourself, but not to the point where they may not like your attitude.
Step Six: Make small talk with the person you want to go with. You don’t just walk up and “pop the question” suddenly because it may feel awkward.
Step Seven: Slowly, work your way up to bringing up the dance. Again, bringing up something too suddenly may make the other person feel uncomfortable.
Step Eight: Ask them if they would like to go with you. The hardest step of all is going to be asking them, but I’m sure you’ll do just fine.
Step Nine: Maintain composure no matter what the answer is. If it’s a yes, don’t freak out, it may make your date feel uncomfortable or draw unwanted attention to the two of you. If it’s no, don’t get upset, I’m sure there’s plenty of other people that would love to go to the Ball with you.
Asking someone to be your date is meant to be nerve racking, but that’s what makes it exhilarating. It’s much better to try and have a chance of being let down then not trying and regretting it. Just go for it. No matter what the answer is, at least you tried. A for effort.